Are some women just lacking "Center"?

6/15/2008 6:11:13 AM	Are some women just lacking "Center"?
cowboyscrub Anchorage, AK age: 25	So i was kinda getting to know this girl for a couple of weeks spent nights on the phone for hours etc. We tenatively agreed to just see were things went. we got together for one night, probably if not definately a mistake (hind sight is 20/20 and readily equiped with a night vision spotting scope) but I played it out to see where it would go. next thing she is talking to me how she is going to rais her kids (she doesnt have any yet) how she is very anti-organized religion (she's pagan/im not and obviouly organized religion is important to me) and all of our discussions become how if the father of her kids wants to go to church thats fine but she wont force her kids togo to church and they can worship nature with mom. Not discussions I initiated but forseeing a problem that would surface later I choose to break it off, now she attacks me and my belief system saying that my beliefs are discriminatory against hers so I guess what I'm asking is am I an a**hole for breaking off from something that (appareantly is surfacing early) but would be a major differance of opinion; is it just her or me; or are some women lacking a true sense of center?
6/15/2008 6:17:26 AM	Are some women just lacking "Center"?
katsclown Palm City, FL age: 46	tolerance of other people's beliefs whether it be politics or religion; is something you either have or don't have. My best friend is ultra right wing conservative and I am a bleeding heart , tree hugging liberal. we have been best friends for 30 years and will tolerate anything to preserve that friendship that means everything to us.
6/15/2008 6:23:06 AM	Are some women just lacking "Center"?
roadrisingup Waldo, OH age: 39	I have broke off relationships for a hell-of-alot less dont think you should give it a second thought pal. you decide whats best for you and your future. she can find someone who accepts and admires her for her beliefs and be better off.
6/15/2008 6:23:08 AM	Are some women just lacking "Center"?
cowboyscrub Anchorage, AK age: 25	I was trying to be accomadating but I think what freaked me out the most was talking about how "we" were going to raise our kids and weve only known each other for 4 weeks!
6/15/2008 6:27:01 AM	Are some women just lacking "Center"?
katsclown Palm City, FL age: 46	she sounds like she maybe extreme and not so tolerant.
6/15/2008 6:31:04 AM	Are some women just lacking "Center"?
misssmatch Cleveland, TN age: 52	everyone is entitled to his/her own beliefs...if a couple doesn't agree on religion, there could be serious issues if those beliefs aren't respected... was she lacking center? maybe she was more annoyed that the two of you spent the night too soon..
6/15/2008 6:31:36 AM	Are some women just lacking "Center"?
susansheart839 Port Saint Lucie, FL age: 61	Everyone is entitled to their beliefs and if your beliefs are so strongly opposed to hers, you did the absolute right thing by breaking it off. After all, there has to be a mutual foundation of shared beliefs in order for a relationship to grow and prosper. I think her feelings were hurt when you broke up with her. You seem very intelligent and grounded. Susan
6/15/2008 6:33:54 AM	Are some women just lacking "Center"?
cowboyscrub Anchorage, AK age: 25	Quote from katsclown: tolerance of other people's beliefs whether it be politics or religion; is something you either have or don't have. My best friend is ultra right wing conservative and I am a bleeding heart , tree hugging liberal. we have been best friends for 30 years and will tolerate anything to preserve that friendship that means everything to us. I have friends of a variety of different beliefs from budhists to pagans and orthodox religions as well and i do enjoy the differences of opions they provide aswell as there perspectives I believe it enhances my faith to gain understanding but there are certain things on principle i dont budge on even still cross that bridge when you come to it or build it if you have to, i just didnt understand why she was so fixated on this subject early on
6/15/2008 6:36:19 AM	Are some women just lacking "Center"?
nickhenderson Westby, WI age: 27	some people are just crazy. let it go
6/15/2008 6:37:40 AM	Are some women just lacking "Center"?
cowboyscrub Anchorage, AK age: 25	Quote from den15x12: Quote from cowboyscrub: I was trying to be accomadating but I think what freaked me out the most was talking about how "we" were going to raise our kids and weve only known each other for 4 weeks! I'd say first off the title of this thread has nothing to do with the content of the thread. If she was talking about raising kids, its not wrong for her to talk about how she believed she wanted to raise hers... but are you sure she meant YOURS AND HERS ? because she could have just been talking about her religious beleifs and did not mean YOU exactly as the father of her kids. To tie the content to the title im trying to figure out if i pulled a crazyone out of the hat or if some women are naturally fixated on certain subjects
6/15/2008 6:42:51 AM	Are some women just lacking "Center"?
wistfulwhispers New Britain, CT age: 52	I don't know about being "centered"....but I am "grounded and connected". (I'm an electrician!) Does that count? Have a nice day. * Don't fret over her/what happened. It's all part of learning...use it for the future.
6/15/2008 6:42:58 AM	Are some women just lacking "Center"?
jessie7856 Jupiter, FL age: 35	She sounds a little on the obsessive side if she's already talking about her children that arn't born yet.Probably a blessing you ended the would be relationship.If you too are not on the same page with religion it could cause a problem especially if your passionate about God or whatever you believe in and she is not.
6/15/2008 6:49:23 AM	Are some women just lacking "Center"?
fatactress Cumberland, MD age: 46	Quote from cowboyscrub: So i was kinda getting to know this girl for a couple of weeks spent nights on the phone for hours etc. We tenatively agreed to just see were things went. we got together for one night, probably if not definately a mistake (hind sight is 20/20 and readily equiped with a night vision spotting scope) but I played it out to see where it would go. next thing she is talking to me how she is going to rais her kids (she doesnt have any yet) how she is very anti-organized religion (she's pagan/im not and obviouly organized religion is important to me) and all of our discussions become how if the father of her kids wants to go to church thats fine but she wont force her kids togo to church and they can worship nature with mom. Not discussions I initiated but forseeing a problem that would surface later I choose to break it off, now she attacks me and my belief system saying that my beliefs are discriminatory against hers so I guess what I'm asking is am I an a**hole for breaking off from something that (appareantly is surfacing early) but would be a major differance of opinion; is it just her or me; or are some women lacking a true sense of center? It doesnt work if two people are unevenly "..Yoked"..isnt that in the bible somehwere..I beleive it is.You have to look at all the trouble King Soloman had with his wives of different beleifs and ask your self..is it worth it? Just a thought.
6/15/2008 6:51:06 AM	Are some women just lacking "Center"?
yanks118 Moab, UT age: 25	you gotta be with someone who makes you happy in all areas!
6/15/2008 6:54:00 AM	Are some women just lacking "Center"?
judit0606 Big Stone Gap, VA age: 51	IMO NO you didn't do the wrong thing. It's never wrong to stand up for what you believe in! You did the exact RIGHT thing! Don't give it another thought and move on.